Build Your Self Esteem

Self Esteem is simply how YOU feel about YOU. It is how you value yourself and how you look at yourself. It’s basically the mental image you have of yourself.

Now – I’m a bald guy with a huge nose, gray goatee, pointy ears, and bushy eyebrows. And believe me – that’s being nice. Not a great picture, I know. And if I looked in the mirror everyday and concentrated on each of these “distinguished” characteristics, I’d be setting myself up for a pretty long and horrible day.

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You may be thinking, “Lance,” (that’s my name), “How do you do it? How do you go through each day looking like that? How is it possible for someone to make it through life looking like you do?”

Well my answer is twofold. First- review the first paragraph. It’s how I feel about me. It’s how I value me. It’s how I see myself. I look in the mirror and see Johnny Depp. Okay – I forgot to mention that my eyes are going too.

Second – I simply am not concerned in the least with how others see me physically. Does that mean I’m going to let myself go physically, dress in rags, and never comb my hair? Well partially – I will never comb my hair – EVER . . . again (whimper, sniffle).

Have I always had such self esteem? Heavens no!

As a teenager – I had some self confidence. I believed I could perform any task mentally or physically if I put my mind to it. But – I didn’t have a great picture of myself. I didn’t like how I looked physically and didn’t care too much for myself mentally either.

Believe it or not, I had TONS of UNRULY hair back them. And I HATED IT!

What I hated worse was when I started to lose it. OMG!! How would I look? How would others view me? Could I manage a realistic Trump-like comb-over? I envisioned myself alone and pathetic. It seemed I was doomed to be the bald guy with the “ferret-wrapped-around-the-ears” look.

Amazingly enough, as my hair receded farther and farther, my confidence didn’t. I never became lonesome and pathetic as I had worried I would. In fact, things weren’t bad at all. Things were better than good. Things were great! My looks didn’t matter a bit.

And the mental image grew clearer. Actually it seemed the less hair I had to mess up my face, the clearer and shinier the image appeared. In fact – my self esteem reached its pinnacle the day I shaved my head. Okay – that part isn’t exactly true.

The point I’m really trying to make is this – self esteem has nothing to do with how you appear physically. And it SHOULDN’T - Ever. Yes – you should still be presentable, dress nice, smell good, and brush your hair (if you have it).

However, if you love yourself - and I mean really and truly love yourself, you will have such a high self esteem that others will swarm to be with you, to be around you, to be near you. You will be TRULY ATTRACTIVE no matter how you may look physically.

The best part about that –this is the type of attraction that will never fade with age. It will grow every day you feed it, nurture it, and cultivate it. Unlike your physical appearance, that you can’t do anything about (unless you’re rich or your uncle’s a plastic surgeon), you can change your self esteem.

So, how do you get that high sense of self esteem? That’s what we’re here for - Your answers are just a few clicks away.

For now though, simply BELIEVE!


Believe in yourself, believe you were made
To do any Task without calling for aid
Believe, without growing too scornfully proud
That you, as the greatest and least are endowed

A mind to do thinking, two hands and two eyes
Are all the equipment God gives to the wise
Believe in yourself! You're divinely designed
And perfectly made for the work of mankind.

This truth you must cling to, through danger and pain;
The heights man has reached you can also attain
Believe to the very last hour for it's true
That whatever you will, you've been gifted to do.

Believe in yourself and step out unafraid.
By misgivings and doubt be not easily swayed.
You've the right to succeed the precision of skill
Which betokens the great you can earn if you will

The wisdom of ages is yours if you'll read
But you've got to believe in yourself to succeed!